CHANGE....

For the first installment of my PROJECT KINDNESS, I am going to start off with CHANGE.

Now, I am not talking the monetary kind of change...ha fooled ya with the picture huh? The kind of change I am talking about is the one we, as humans can make. Today's society is full of people stuck in their old ways. That isn't exactly a bad thing, but in some ways it can be. We are trained growing up to be yourself, and make sure you are happy. But what if I told you that those are little white lies.

In fact, we are an ever changing and the more regularly evolving species on this Earth. Crazy right? Well, as we grow from young to old, we are constantly changing, some in a good way, and others in a bad way.

We change ourselves to fit a certain lifestyle, or we change ourselves to be with someone, or we simply change ourselves in order to be a new person. There are people that don't change at all, and stay the same way for the next 50 years. I'm also not just talking about changing the style of clothes we wear, or our hairdo's, I'm talking about our mentality, and our way of living.

I read an article the other day, that stated our worldly population is dwindling because we as humans aren't recreating enough. Wait....what? I mean I get that we have over 7.7 billion people on this Earth. (http://www.worldometers.info/world-population/)

But when I read an article that is pretty much telling me that I (not just me), need to have more kids so the people that have passed away can be replaced.....um, that makes me a little skeptical about the way we are living now. Like I said, I get that people are passing away...God Bless their souls, and that new little humans are coming into this world...may God give them a happy life, but our world, and society, however you wanna put it, is so focused on being able to put a person on Mars, or what the President is doing, or who killed who and etc. That is when we need to say STOP! and start to CHANGE.

I may be a stay at home mom, with two kids, whom I lovingly adore, and writes these little blog posts in her free time just for the fun of it, I may be a wisher, a dreamer, and a crazy thinker, but I see the world that my kids are growing up in.

We are so focused on who has a skinny waist and who has the nicest lifestyle. I get it, i really do. But instead of focusing on who is model material, or who is the richest person on Earth, maybe we should focus on who can actually make a bigger difference and impact on today.

We all have bad days, and sometimes, yes....I am a b***h, but i am 99% of the time happy, and want the best for people. I don't use the word "HATE" towards anyone, I will even tell my worst enemy that I hope they have a good day. That's just me though. We are also quick to stigmatize people. I once heard that if you are shy, you are considered a depressive. Um...excuse me....and if i could put an emoji that depicts my disgusted face, i would! People, come on, not everything has to have a label. I for instance have BiPolar Disorder (Type-2), and Borderline Personality Disorder (adult form of Opposition Defiance Disorder), PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), Generalized Anxiety, and probably more. I am quickly labeled as a crazed out lunatic. Believe me when someone hears those diagnosis, they get a bewildered look on their face. But point being, if we change our way of thinking maybe people like me can start to feel accepted.

Back in the olden days, ha!..women that were not married and had a child out of wedlock was deemed "un-courtable" and "harlot". Gay used to be for being happy..."I have had the 'gayest' time today", in today's world when we hear gay, we think of same sex relationships. When we hear of kids listening to hard core, screamo music, or dressing like goths, we think of Satanic rituals, and mass murderers. So many of us are trained growing up to believe that we have to be perfect. My irritation with my spouse, is his wording of telling our daughter to "be perfect"....wait a minute.....she is 6 years old, she already is perfect in my eyes. That sets up an expectation that if she doesn't solve a math problem in under a minute she thinks she has failed us.

MY OPINION, and i will always capitalize those two words, because it is my sole opinion. MY OPINION, is that instead of expecting someone to be kind, or look a certain way, or etc, we should take that idea and say, "i dont know what they are going through, let me show them some kindness." We are also so focused on President Trump, and what he is doing, but in MY OPINION, let the man fail if he is failing, or let him do what he has to do. I am not a political person by no means, but all this rage about building the wall on the Mexican border has me just sick with the way our country is dwindling. MY OPINION, is to just drop the issue, help the immigrants gain American citizenship within a certain period of time, and be done with this whole problem. America was founded by immigrants, for anyone who knows their history, America was home to Native Americans, we have had the British colonies reign over us until the Revolutionary war, America has the Asian immigrants coming through Angel Island, in California, the European immigrants coming through Ellis Island, in New York, and we had immigrants trying to come to America to build a better life for their families, to escape wars and famine. We all learned to get along and live as a country, and we have thrived and prospered. But now, we are all gung-ho because people of other ethnic backgrounds are coming and we have an issue with it. America was called the "Melting Pot" for a reason.

That is my reason for this post..WE NEED CHANGE. We are so focused on the he said she said things and materialistic things in this world, but we aren't focused on helping people out in times of need, or making our lives easier by simply getting together and trying to come up with a solution. I always tell my spouse that this is 2019, and not the 1950's when he references what he thinks a woman should do, and the same statement applies to today's society. This may be 2019, and the world seems to be in chaos, but remember when we all banded together during times of crisis, like World War 2, for instance, we wanted to stay out of the war, but we ended up being brought into the war because Pearl Harbor was bombed, BUT, we as a nation, banded together to help each other. Maybe mainly the war effort, but still, we were banded by this one war, and then life seemed easier.

The point of my post is that, if we take a moment and focus on what we can do to help make the world a better place for the future generations we are or are not bringing into this world, then life will seem less chaotic, less harsh, I'm not talking about just ways we can recycle or make sure our crops grow, im talking about them and everything else wrong with the world. But we aren't. We are focused with one person or another because of something, or we are focused on having a rich and easy life.

So I leave off this post in my first installment of PROJECT KINDNESS, with a couple words of wisdom....

Look around you, not just in your neighborhood or community...but at the life around you

And....

MAKE A CHANGE!

My next installment will be on HUMANITY, there will be 5 installments to my PROJECT KINDNESS. I hope that I can grow this project to be something we can all thrive to live by, and in doing it our own ways.